"Is it better to propose
marriage in a letter or in person?" is the question that is under debate.
This article will argue in the affirmative for proposal in person.
“Will you marry me?”
What a wonderful question for
any prospective bride-to-be, to receive from a potential groom!
A stately, but nervous, young
man, gets down on one knee and timidly asks the ultimate question. Perhaps he
is in among those who have wondered, “Is it better to propose marriage in
a letter or in person?”
Instinctively, he knows that
proposing in person is better.
“Will you marry me?”
This is a timely question for
any era, including ours. It is a question of the past and one of today, but it
will continue to be asked in the future.
What is the ideal way to
propose marriage to someone who you love?
Is there ever an ideal scenario
for a marriage proposal?
To answer this question, ask
yourself, “If you were the prospective bride, how would you like to receive your
marriage proposal?”
One must argue that for a
prospective bride, an ideal marriage proposal would be one that comes
directly from a prospective groom who is present, at that time. The ideal
marriage proposal would include personal contact and the loving touch of
one’s prospective mate. A letter can never have that personal contact and
human touch.
At the same time, a mail
proposal may be welcome, even when, or if it appears to be cold or
heartless, to a prospective bride. but, who wants to receive a proposal from
someone in the form of a letter? Maybe that is appropriate as a last resort,
but otherwise, a bride wants to be with her prospective husband when he asks
the question.
Love, hugs, kisses and caresses
are an important part of any marriage proposal. In an ideal scenario, there is
invariably a spark of love between the couple desiring to get married. This
spark ignites a fiery passion and triggers the marital instinct in young people
or in those who are older. Lovers see and feel that spark in each
other.
Being in close proximity to one
another or in intimate contact with the other, arouses strong longings, desires
and sexual feelings. These may not be present or immediately evident in a
proposal made via a letter.
When they are together, it is
possible for a future couple to share their hopes and dreams. This is just not
the same, when trying to do that by mail.
The twinkle in the eye of lovers, gives evidence of mutual
love, respect and admiration. It is only visible to the naked eye. It is difficult
to portray this in letter format or in a photograph, though it might
still be evident to some extent. Those who are in love have a certain glow
about them. It attracts lovers to each other.
Seldom, can
everything that needs to be said in terms of marriage, be expressed in
written words. Spoken words are so much better.
Few writers can express
the feelings of a couple wanting to be married. Appropriate expression
is extremely important. Those really wanting to be married, experience intense
feelings and can normally put them into words, spoken (or unspoken), when
they are face to face.
There is warmth, comfort and a
sense of presence, as well as a close personal relationship experienced by
those who are together, when it is the right time for a marriage proposal.
There is also the immediate
response factor that is not possible in a proposal that comes to a prospective
bride in a letter. Electronic letters may be the exception.
There is the giving of the
symbolic ring, the welcoming acceptance on the part of the bride-to-be and the
mutual, joyous celebration that includes other family members or friends.
Who wants to miss all of that,
particularly when the couple is ready and extremely happy about their plans for
the future?
At the same time, traditions
and cultures vary in terms of marriage proposal practices and thus, they do
take other forms, particularly in terms of arranged marriages. There are times
when 'in person' marriage proposals are not possible because of distance and in
that scenario a proposal in the form of a letter may suffice.
Ideally, marriage proposals are made in person.
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